Replace “You’re being bad” with “What you did wasn’t okay.”
This helps to separate the child’s actions from their identity.
By criticizing the action, you indicate what is unacceptable without questioning the child’s worth. This reinforces their self-esteem and fosters better communication. They will feel understood rather than judged. Children also learn to regulate their emotions by realizing that they can change their behaviors.
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